18 Ways to Live a Successful Life (That Have Nothing to Do With Money)

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People are always talking about success. It’s a word we hear often and an idea that seems to be constantly dangling in front of our faces — just out of reach.

But what does it mean? How, exactly, does one measure “success?”

We read articles that promise to enlighten us on “How to Be Successful.” They always tell us to work hard, ask for that raise, be innovative, not to waste time being unproductive, not to surround ourselves with those loser friends who have no interest in climbing the proverbial ladder. Someday, these articles promise, enough hard work and the right amount of luck will make us successful. (In other words, very rich and very powerful).

Attend any high school reunion and the quiet whispers amongst the crowd will be about (other than who got fat, who got divorced, who died) who turned out to be really successful. (In other words, who has the most impressive paycheck and/or job title.)

It seems that great achievement always correlates to money, power, possessions, and impressing other people.

Is that it? Is that all we can define success as?

When our skin wrinkles around our eyes and our bones grow weary, will money and power alone warm our souls and allow us to think, “I’ve lived a good life?”

There are plenty of people who have millions of dollars in their bank accounts, and yet, not a single true friend. Are they a success? Of course, in an ideal world we would all have both — tons of money and tons of friends — but why is it that our broadly accepted idea of accomplishment revolves around materialism?

A conversation with a friend of mine who spent a year living in an impoverished village abroad got me thinking about cultural ideals. Her views had certainly changed through her experience, and our discussion set my mind going about what, exactly, defines a successful life if money is off the table.

Of course, who doesn’t hope to be financially secure? Most of us probably do, but to make money, power, and possessions your sole goal in life is to ignore the deeper purpose of the human experience.

Here are 18 components of living a successful life.

1) Know who you are, what your values are, and what you stand for.

2) Have a small group of people — or even just one — around whom you can be 100-percent yourself. These are the people who know the most genuine of your smiles and your long list of dreams, but have also seen you eat an entire sleeve of Oreos (in one sitting) and wipe your snot on the sleeve of your sweatshirt as you cry. (They may or may not have also seen your interpretive dance to “The Thong Song,” but no one would ever know because they’ve sworn to take it to their graves.) If you have even one of these people in your life, you are fortunate.

3) Have a circle of people who, though you don’t see them as often as you’d like, are still the first ones celebrating your victories and listening on the other end of the phone line when your world is crashing down. These are the kind of friendships that time and distance and different life paths don’t change — and they require nourishing.

4) Understand that life is precious and tomorrow isn’t guaranteed. Continuously remind yourself who and what you’re grateful for, and show them your appreciation often.

5) Recognize that there is pain and suffering in this world beyond your comprehension. Still choose to see the good in life.

6) Be generous with your soul. Be compassionate and empathetic towards your fellow human beings. Give. Don’t expect anything in return for your generosity — the camaraderie you will feel for a fellow human being is reward enough.

7) Always strive for personal growth, but accept your smaller imperfections and love yourself regardless. If you demand perfection, you will only be exhausted.

8) Love. Love deeply. Love fully. Don’t ever let fear prevent you from experiencing the greatest feeling in this life. Love your family, love your friends, love your partners, love children, love strangers, love yourself. Immerse yourself in love — it’s worth it.

9) Find something you are passionate about and something that always brings peace to your soul. These two things might be the same thing. Do them often.

10) Have a collection of memories. Some that make you laugh, some that make you smirk, some that make you cringe, and some that make you cry.

11) Have the courage to draw your own road map for life. Live only according to your own expectations, and nobody else’s.

12) Know when to close your mouth and listen. Everybody has something to share.

13) Overcome toxic habits and say goodbye to toxic people. You only get one shot at this life — so why let anything hold you back?

14) Learn from every single experience you have. Allow these lessons to guide you in the future. Share your wisdom with friends, peers, strangers and younger generations. (And don’t ever think you’re too old to learn something new!)

15) Constantly seek out new experiences with no fear.

16) Regard every one of your fellow human beings as equals, regardless of race, culture, socioeconomic class, age, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc.

17) Remember that if you have health, shelter, clean water and food you are luckier than most. Keep your perspective.

18) Never take yourself so seriously that you’ve forgotten how to laugh or be silly. Never get too old to see the world through the eyes of a child — with wonder and awe. Maturity and playfulness can coexist.

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Another Easter Egg Hunt- You won’t want to miss!

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Bon Air Baptist Church – James River Campus

Community Easter Egg Hunt

Saturday, April 19, 2014 at 10:00 a.m.

Robious Landing Park, Shelter #3

Invite your friends and neighbors to join us in the park for an Egg Hunt!

Face painting, balloons, and other prizes.

Remember to bring a bag or basket to collect your eggs!

FREE….Rain or Shine.

Egg Hunts 2014 Richmond.com Easter Guide

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It’s time to get egg-y with it Richmond. Did we just say that? Yes, yes we did.

Free egg hunts (unless otherwise noted) all over now from now until Easter. Get on iEaster Egg Eggstravaganza at Centura College

Monday, April 14

Centura College hosts an Easter event with free activities for children including an egg hunt, face painting, an inflatable playhouse and rock wall. Area police and fire department personnel will also be on-site talking with children and parents about safety, and Richmond Kickers Soccer will be available for spring league sign-ups. 7914 Midlothian Turnpike in North Chesterfield. 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. Free and open to the public.

Easter Eggstravaganza at Kings Dominion

Thursday, April 18-Sunday, April 20

Kings Dominion celebrates Easter (and 40 years) with their annual Easter Eggstravaganza. Highlights include an Easter EGGsploration scavenger hunt, petting zoo, Easter crafts, photo opportunities with Eggward the Easter Bunny and more.

Easter Segg Hunt

Friday, April 18-Sunday, April 20

River City Segs is hosting its second annual Easter Segg Hunt. River City Segs will hide eggs, or ‘Seggs’, around RVA on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday of Easter weekend.  Clues to finding these ‘Seggs’ will be posted on River City Segs’ Facebook and Twitter pages.  Inside the eggs you’ll find free stuff from local companies like Lucy’s Restaurant, World of Mirth, Shockoe Denim, The Boathouse, Nectar Sunglasses, Richmond Trolley Company, The Valentine Richmond History Center and more are being added daily. The Facebook event page is https://www.facebook.com/events/1471801676366320/?ref=5 No purchase necessary.

Easter Egg Hunt at Historic St. John’s Church

Saturday, April 19

Bring your Easter basket for a free egg hunt. 2 p.m.

Egg Hunt at Bethlehem Baptist Church

Saturday, April 19

Head to Bethlehem Baptist for an egg hunt open to the public with games and free food. 10 a.m.

Easter Egg Hunts at Spiders Game

Saturday, April 19

Head to Robins Stadium for Spider football featuring the inaugural Spiders Easter Egg hunt. The Easter Egg hunt is open to children age 13 and under, prizes for collecting the most eggs, special prize for finding the golden egg and prize winners will be recognized on the field during the game. Plus a Family Fun Zone, chances to win prizes and post-game autographs.

Family Easter at Maymont

Saturday, April 19

A Richmond tradition, bring the whole family to Maymont for an enormous egg hunt, crafts, games live entertainment and more Easter fun. Fees per activities. 10 a.m. to 3 p.m.

The Light Community Church Eggstravaganza

Saturday, April 19

Easter egg hunt for children ages 2-12, with free haircuts, face painting, games, and food.  The food consists of hot dogs with chips and a drink. Children eat free, $2 donation for all others. Pre-registration at: http://www.mylightcc.org/egg_stravganza_registration

Virginia Stampede Easter Egg Roundup

Saturday, April 19

Sponsored by Stay ‘n Play, 1,200 candy filled plastic eggs will be spread out over the Colonial Downs front lawn. ”Roundup” for kids 5 years of age & younger will be at 6:15 p.m.; 6 -10 years of age will be at 6:30 p.m. – both on front lawn. Many eggs will contain upgraded prizes — those will have a colored dot on the outside of the egg; prizes include Mr. Potato Head Jockey Figurines, Richmond Flying Squirrels tickets, Richmond Raiders tickets, Virginia Stampede t-shirts, $5 Moe’s gift cards, McDonalds Happy Meal vouchers Sheldon Russell jockey garden gnomes, jockey Edgar Prado figurines, Virginia Derby baseball caps & admission tickets to the August Virginia Stampede & Virginia Mega Mile AMA Pro Flat track motorcycle race August 23rd. Kids can get pic taken with the Easter Bunny & rodeo funny man, Might Mike Wentworth. The rodeo begins at 7 p.m. Advance sale general admission for adults is $15; kids 12 & under are $5, a Family 4-Pack costs $30.

BECOME MORE PRODUCTIVE WITHOUT ACTUALLY DOING MORE WORK

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IT MAY SEEM COUNTERINTUITIVE, BUT RESEARCH SUGGESTS TAKING TIME TO RECHARGE, BE OF SERVICE, HELPS MAKE YOU MORE PRODUCTIVE.

BY LINDSAY LAVINE

http://www.fastcompany.com/

In an effort to out-do colleagues and stay at the top of their game, lawyers, doctors, entrepreneurs, and other professionals work crazy hours, remain plugged in and forego vacations.

While examples such as a 21-year-old investment bank intern from the U.K. dying after working three straight days without sleep, or the 32-year-old California lawyer who died after working 80 to 100 hours a week are extreme, professionals often sacrifice time, health, and family to get ahead.

Emma Seppala, associate director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research at Stanford University, recently examined this issue for Psychology Today, and advocates doing something different.

What if, she asks, the secret to exceptional productivity wasn’t working crazy hours, but time spent relaxing and volunteering? Here are three suggestions to become more productive, without actually doing more work:

1. SCHEDULE DOWNTIME.

How many times have you been in the shower or watching TV, and an idea or solution to a problem popped into your head, seemingly out of nowhere? “The trick to self-mastery actually lies in the opposite of control–effortlessness, relaxation, and well-being,” Seppala says.

“Control is fatiguing, while brain imaging research shows that relaxation is not only restorative but actually leads [to] enhanced memory and facilitated intellectual understanding,” she says. In other words, while you’re participating in relaxing activities, your brain is still processing. “It’s important that the brain has had time to relax, restore, and reflect,” Seppala notes.

Other research suggests that you’re more creative when you’re tired (at night for early birds and in the morning for night owls). Seppala says by scheduling in time for activities you enjoy, just as you would other important tasks, you’ll be more efficient.

2. DECLUTTER YOUR MIND.

It can feel really good to purge your inbox, but it doesn’t make much difference if your mind won’t stop racing–you’ve still got clutter. We know sleep has restorative effects for the body, but Seppala says most people forget you need to rest your mind as well. By relaxing the brain through meditation or otherwise unplugging from work, research has shown both health benefits and a boost in creative problem solving.

3. HELP SOMEONE ELSE.

Another way to free yourself from stress, improve your mood (another productivity enhancer), and get out of your head is to volunteer. Whether it’s simply doing a favor for a friend or colleague or a regular commitment to a charitable organization, being connected with others is key to productivity. In addition to being good for you (studies have shown positive mental and physical effects of volunteering), Seppala says networking and being connected to others may enhance your professional success. And that’s a win-win.

Spring Break in Virginia

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Why rush off to Mexico or Florida for your spring break when there are plenty of options right here in the Old Dominion? Whether you are a family looking for fun, lovers in search of romance, or a student planning to drink yourself silly, Virginia has plenty to offer

Here are some great spring break suggestions, with something for families, couples and frat-boys alike.

Shenandoah National Park – Load the kids into the car and cruise along Skyline Drive, taking in mountains and greenery from all angles. Or, to get the most out of Shenandoah National Park, exit the automobile and get involved with nature. Kids should enjoy the park ranger led Junior Ranger program, which includes guided nature hikes, horseback riding, camping and wildlife watching.

Virginia State Parks – There are 35 Virginia State Parks sprinkled throughout the Old Dominion, from the Atlantic seashore to the Appalachian Mountains. The statewide park system celebrates its 75th anniversary this year, with a multitude of special events, programs and themes. Visitors can hike the trails, take in scenic views, hit the beaches, go boating, go tubing down a river, explore an abandoned gold mine, spot a bald eagle in the wild and plenty more.

Williamsburg – In the Historic Triangle of Colonial Williamsburg, Yorktown and Jamestown Settlement, kids and adults alike can see what life in early America was like, and learn a little about how America got started. But if that gets too educational (you’re on vacation remember) then there’s always Busch Gardens, which offers an old world European theme for the adults and roller coasters for thrill-seeking youngsters.

Eastern Shore – Because it’s separated from the rest of Virginia by the Chesapeake Bay, visiting the Eastern Shore can feel like you’ve left the state without crossing any borders. But provided you don’t venture too far north and stray into Maryland, you’re still on an in-state spring break vacation. Sporty kids can take a lesson at the SEE Kite Boarding School, while the more scientifically curious will be fascinated by the NASA Wallops Flight Facility Visitor Center. And anyone not interested in seeing the wild ponies of Chincoteague Island doesn’t deserve a spring break in the first place.

Romantic Getaway – Onancock – Breathe in that sea breeze. Onancock is a tiny harbor town of less than 2,000 people, established in the late 1600s and located in Accomack County in the Eastern Shore region of Virginia. Couples can enjoy the quaintness of gingerbread porches, clapboard steeples and old-fashioned glass storefronts, before sleeping tight at the Inn at Onancock, a bed and breakfast promising feather-topped beds, luxury linens and a gourmet breakfast when you wake up.

Staunton – As Virginia Living editor Richard Ernsberger Jnr. discovered on a recent visit, you pronounce it STAN-ton, without the ‘u’ sound. Staunton is a walkable town, boasting art galleries, restaurants and the Blackfriars Playhouse, where the American Shakespeare Center performs Elizabethan plays in their original conditions. Stay at any of the nine bed and breakfasts, all located within the sort of restored historic buildings that saw Staunton named amongst the National Trust for Historic Preservation’s Dozen Distinctive Destinations.

Charlottesville – Walk the historic Grounds of the University of Virginia and visit Monticello, the estate of Thomas Jefferson. Or simply stroll around the boutique stores downtown. Better still, get above it all with a hot air balloon ride over Central Virginia.

Loudoun County – Loudoun County is in northern Virginia, less than an hour’s drive from he hubbub of Washington, D.C., but now claims more wineries than any other county in the state. Take the Loudon County Wine Trail and enjoy the clusters of boutique wineries while admiring the backdrop of beautiful rolling hills.

PARTY TOWN- Virginia Beach – Head for the bright lights of Virginia’s biggest city, which offers 28 miles of beaches, 11,000 accommodation options, 3 miles of boardwalk and more restaurants, bars and nightclubs than you could ever hope to conquer in one visit. Just remember to drink plenty of water before going to bed so you can get up the following day and enjoy some water sports.

UNCATEGORIZABLE -  Tangier Island – Visiting Tangier Island is like going back in time. Located in the Lower Eastern Shore, Tangier Island is nearly car-less and very much ATM-less, so bring cash and be prepared to rent a bike. One of the many odd attractions is the accent of the locals, which due to the relative isolation of island life is almost unchanged from when the island was settled in 1686.

Theme & Water Parks  Make plans to hit a theme park. Enjoy the countries of Busch Gardens (Open Daily until April 21) in Williamsburg or the family roller coaster park of Kings Dominion (Open daily through April 20) near Richmond.

If the weather doesn’t always cooperate for outdoor parks you can always enjoy the indoor Great Wolf Lodge Waterpark in Williamsburg and the Massanutten Resort Water Park in McGaheysville.

Beautiful Outdoors  Get back to nature at Virginia State Parks, voted “America’s Best.” Enjoy hiking, biking, fishing and wildlife watching this time of year. Give each of the kids their own disposable camera to document their adventure, or do a little research to see if there are geocaching opportunities.

Nature – If you and your family love creature-seeking, you’ll enjoy adventuring about Virginia’s nature centers, zoos and Natural Area Preserves. Meet aquatic life at indoor aquariums, touch pools and in interactive living exhibits.   Children are thrilled to visit the eerie worlds created by dripstone stalactites and stalagmites in Virginia’s Caverns. Did you know that some of the caverns were discovered by curious children and their dogs?

Virginia Beach  This is a great time to enjoy one of Virginia’s Beaches. The water might give a refreshing tingle, but you can play beach volleyball, build sand castles, go fishing off a pier and sunbathe. Of course, many hotels offer heated pools so the kids can still get in their waterplay.

This is the most beautiful time of year for a hot-air balloon ride. Choose the northern Shenandoah Valley or Charlottesville in Central Virginia. Cool mornings, gentle breezes and spectacular spring blossoms you can pick from the trees make it a memorable experience.

Somewhat Unexpected If your family enjoys Weird & Wacky attractions, Virginia has a complete list of off-beat things to do on your spring break. For example, visit Dinosaur Land, home to more than 50 fiberglass prehistoric creatures — lifesize! Or you might want to visit some of Virginia’s Childhood Totems, such as Route 11 Potato Chip Factory or the Birthplace of Mr. Peanut.

Try your piloting skills in an official NASA Shuttle Landing Simulator and visit the Air & Space Center in Hampton. For more flight and space explorations, see Out-of-this-World Vacations.

Colonial Williamsburg Stocks Hot History  “History is fun,” say the folks at Jamestown Settlement. Did you know that 2007 marked the 400th birthday of our nation’s founding by the English who settled in Jamestown in 1607?  Another fun, historical place to visit is Colonial Williamsburg, where you and the kids can pretend you’re living in colonial days. The entire town stays in character 24 hours a day.

Dive into Virginia’s presidential history in a fun, kid-energized way to learn about George Washington, Thomas Jefferson, James Madison, James Monroe, William Henry Harrison, John Tyler, Zachary Taylor and Woodrow Wilson.

For more info, go to Virginialiving.com and Virginia.org/springbreak